Psychologists say divorce is the second most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse or child. It can also be very expensive. However, there are ways to minimize costs that we have written about before. In a word: preparation. In two words: preparation and organization. Here is some more detailed advice from a California attorney:
You know that advice your best friend gave you about writing a scathing note to your ex when you are fuming about something they said or did? They probably advised you to write down everything you want to tell your ex. Get everything out. Say every mean thing you've ever wanted to say. Then, when you're done - delete it. Or send it to yourself. It's not worth sending it to your ex when you are upset. Pick your battles. Communicate when you're calm. Anything you say can be used against you when you are going through a divorce. So, be mindful.